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Trust is a concept that means the world to some people and means nothing to others. It is an abstract thought that cannot be quantified or verified, yet it is something we can all understand and feel.
Most people view trust as a single-aspect thought. They think trust is trust, regardless of it's form. In my experience, though, I have seen the existence of two types of trust, both with their unique aspects.
These two types are true trust and convenient trust.
True trust is the one which we most often associate with the word when we hear about it, but is not always the type that exists in the context in question. It is the classic concept which is earned throught trial and error and the one which is valued by most people. True trust is not somehting that can be broken easily, but it is also not something that can be acquired easily. It, like most great things, requires time.
Convenient trust is the one which most often exists and we often mistake it for the real thing. Convenient trust is just what it sounds like -- it is trust that we give to someone simply because it is convenient to do so. If someone shares our basic view on things or has been through many of the same experiences we have, we feel that we can trust them to make the same decisions we would in any given situation. It isn't somehting that takes too long to acquire, and it also isn't something that takes too long to break.
In our daily lives, we can see the difference between these types of trust by looking at how we treat various kinds of people. The people whom we truly trust are given more leeway with our emotions. We allow our own emotions to reflect theirs more than we do with those people whom we conveniently trust. We feel as if the people with our true trust are less likely to hurt us, and in most cases we're correct.
We also tend to care more about the people we truly trust. It's as if we know there is more to lose with them. The people we trust out of convenience are the ones we don't notice when they are gone. It is the people we truly trust that we miss and mourn over.
Trust isn't a concept that everyone values, but it is one that everyone can understand, and it's something that some people will cherish and return and others will simply take for granted. The ones who return it are the ones who make a difference in our lives, but the ones who take it for granted are the ones we seem doomed to remember.
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